Relationships are hard for most people but then add in the fact that you only get to see each other a couple times a year. Sometimes things can seem to hard and you want to give up. Trust me I have been there a couple times and once I did. I was lucky that he took me back because I think my life would have gone in a completely different direction if he had not. So I decided to talk about some of the mistakes that I made with my husband before I married him. I wouldn't change the things that happened but I wouldn't want to make them again.
Ok so when I would go up there to see him in VA. We would spend our time when he wasn't working just hanging out at his apartment watching movies playing video games and such. This was fine I loved spending time with him, but the problem was when he was at work I couldn't leave. With his ID being the key to the room and me not being able to have one I was stuck. I would get bored and then he would come home and I wouldn't be in a good mood from being stuck there and would take it out one him. I think back on it and gosh I was probably soo annoying I have no idea how he put up with it. So my advice is when you are bored dont try to start fights talk about it tell your s/o that you wanna get out and do something. While he is at work look things up online to do, the zoo, the movies, dinner... ANYTHING.
When he wasn't here I would get invited to go out with my friends and would think nothing of it. He didn't always like this idea because he wouldn't know some of the people going and he wasn't with me. To me I felt like he didn't trust me, to him he just wanted to lookout for me. I wish I saw it through his eyes because it caused fights that were unnecessary. So when you have a fight always try to look at where the other person is coming from. I now understand and I don't really go out unless it is with my sisters or my girlfriends he knows.
Then there was the fact that we only saw each other a couple weekends a month and we tried to keep our relationship spiced. That can be tricky because I get nervous talking about sexual things. Sometimes I just wasn't in the mood and this caused fights because we didn't always have that long together. I didn't think about spicing things up. Yet you need to, girls maybe have a glass of wine, but also talk to your s/o tell them what you like what you don't like try new things have fun with it. You only have the time you have together. Have fun with it, read about it, there are many possibilities.
So if you didn't find the common thing in all my mistakes it is communication and I believe this part of me is getting better but I will always be open and talk with my husband. He knows me better then anyone because he wont take nothing for an answer to whats wrong. Don't let communication be the downfall of your relationship.
Very well said Bri! Communication is the most important part of a relationship and also the hardest...Ryan and I constantly point out how we need to work on it...but once you know it needs to be address and not taken for granted its a lot easier! I think yall will do just fine!!
ReplyDeleteBtw Loving the blog so far!