Dealing with Deployment

So I have been house hunting… online this is the hardest thing I have ever done. Knowing I can’t sign a lease without my husband being here and knowing that when we get back we have to be in VA till his leave is approved is making this even harder. What is worse is that we can’t have an apartment; we can’t live on base because we have a pit bull.  Even with using a realtor it is very had to find a good house.  So that is the craziness of the next couple of months but what is helping get me through this deployment is my family and friends. Also it is keeping busy, and looking forward to the future.

This is the number one question that I get from people. How do you do it, how are you not sad every day and how do you keep going? Well to answer those questions ……

1   1.  I keep in my head that he is coming home, that I will see him on Skype and that he will talk to me all he can.  You have to stay positive and surround yourself with positive and happy people.

2   2.  I keep busy, I am still doing school and for the first half of the deployment I was working. I also see friends and go to the dog park with my dog. Staying busy is something that will help to keep your mind from always going back to the fact that your s/o is away.  Yes it is still there but keeping busy will keep you from thinking about it all day long.

3   I go and see his sister and her kids a lot. I also go see both my sisters as much as I can. Family is the best support you can have during a deployment. You can talk to them and they will in their own ways understand because they miss you s/o as much as you do.

4. I have a journal that I write in as much as I can, also I started this blog, not only to possibly help other people but as a way to get out what I'm thinking. You should always have a way to get out what is in your head. When you keep all your emotions inside you will at some point crack in one way or another.

I was not perfect at the beginning of this deployment nor am I perfect now but these are some of the things that have kept me from breaking down all the time. I still do whenever I see something on tv about a homecoming or when I am just having a really hard couple of day but that is normal. I hope that helped :)

-Brienne Mahaffey